Cyanide & Happiness @ Explosm.net
Lately, I’ve been surrounded by people in strange relationships, and so I decided to vent here.
One person in the relationship leads a more liberal lifestyle and the other is more traditional, so they argue about everything. That’s not right people. You probably knew this about each other before you got married. It intensified when you got married, but so what?! Talk about it, discuss things, and agree to disagree. Why all the yelling and dragging your families and friends into it? This is your life together, and some things should be kept between the two of you. One does not have to change/dominate the other.
Girls, if your man is abusing you, whether verbally, emotionally, or physically, drop him! Khalas, do not go to your friends crying and saying that you hate him and then say that you can’t leave him because you love him! Athaitoona! We’re trying to look out for you! Either take the advice you came for seriously, or don’t come to us at all. You know we’re right, and you know your relationship isn’t heading anywhere. So deal with it in a way that’s best for you. We can’t tell you what or what not to do. This is your relationship, your life, and your future.
A point for the new wifies who have been coming to me and telling me that their husbands have their headsets on their heads and laptops on their laps during lunch and other quality time you’re supposed to spend together, yank them off of him. Demand the attention. You deserve it. Why are you letting him ignore your existence and belittle your time together? And guess what? He doesn’t realize he’s doing anything that hurts your feelings because you’re not pointing it out!
On cheating.. Here it is: if you would not be okay with your spouse, partner, companion, etc. if s/he were doing what you’re doing, then don’t do it! If you’re thinking about someone else in a way you shouldn’t be, it’s cheating. Flirty text messages, e-mails, phone calls, etc. are cheating. Inappropriate feelings are cheating. It does not have to be physical. And NO, they’re not JUST messages or phone calls or feelings because they lead to other more serious things!
When I decide to be open for therapy sessions, I’ll let you know.
P.S. I’m venting, v e n t i n g, venting. This is not me telling people what to do. It’s a rush of raw emotions. If you don’t get that, your comment will be ignored. Bite me.