Dafaya, s’il vous plait!

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Here’s what I just discussed with my husband, mother-in-law, and father-in-law:

One of our relatives was in the hospital for four days during this past week.

While he was there, a nurse came to inject him with a syringe that was not even for him. He told her to check and then told her off.

While he was there, he got ten kinds of medication on a tray that would have led to his death and had he not explained to the nurse that he does not take them and had her go check again and again and again, she probably would have killed him.

But, while he was there, something happened to top it all off and made the above seem like tiny mistakes..

Two doctors in the room our man is in, assuming that our respectable man does not understand nor speak any English; one says the following to the other:

“He’s old. Give him anything. He’s going to die anyway.”

After an educational fair, my husband and I went to the valet and gave him our voucher so that he gets our car. Instead, he took the money and pointed in the direction of the car. When we asked him to do more, he poured out some insolence. Needless to say, we took care of it.

While touring Madame Tussaud’s in London, a couple of Kuwaiti girls decided they were too good to wait in line to take their pictures. When I stared at them and explained that there’s a line and took my rightful turn, they stood around calling out things like “WAI3!” and “HAILEGEYA.” Nice, huh? They blocked our way, and we walked right past them. Soon enough, one of the girls comes with her father. She brought him to tell me off. I calmly made sure that he understood that there is no way in hell I was going to get told off for his rude daughter’s doings and walked away.

Then I came upstairs to write this blog post, and I found a comment on my previous post from the level of insolence mentioned above. I feel sorry for the person who wrote it.

Let’s all have a moment of silence to pity all those who were just like the inconsiderate people mentioned in this post and hope that they get over their psychological misguidance.

25 Comments for “Dafaya, s’il vous plait!”

  1. 1N.

    *moment of silence* I’m seriously starting to lose hope in people in general. Nas ma teste7y o mako akhlaq o el awadem et7eb etqel adabha. El7emdellah wel sheker.

  2. 2Amethyst

    El7emdillah. Can we homeschool our kids?;p

  3. 3Zabo0o6a

    Elmyaneen zaydeen halyoumain!
    allah el7afe’6 bs !

  4. 4Amethyst

    Ee wallah, saja!


  5. 5Pisces Chick

    OMG!! I can’t believe this .. Are doctors getting worse or were they always evil??

    And about those two girls, “Typical Kuwaitis”

  6. 6Amethyst

    Pisces Chick
    Some just don’t have a conscience. They do not realize that people’s lives are in their hands.

    I don’t believe that these two girls are typical Kuwaitis. Actually, I don’t believe in typical Kuwaitis. Or typical anything for that matter..

  7. 7Vinnie

    I disagree, there r typical Kuwaitis and they have every stuck up feature you can think of imho

    But damn, sometimes doctors know the person is a goner… they still will treat them to the best of their abilities… Doctors are not to play god and say, well its his time.. lets not bother.. especially that healthcare here is free so it doesn’t cost the health insurance anything y3ny… Shameful :(

  8. 8Sou

    The state some people are in is very disappointing. Your relative’s lucky he was aware of his surroundings and of what was going on. Can you imagine how many patients were victims of those nurses? And their reasoning is absolutely ridiculous! “He’s old. Give him anything. He’s going to die anyway.” What the hell has the world come to?!

    As for the Kuwaiti girls in London, shame on them. And they had the audacity to call their father to tell you off? Fe3lan nas mabtekhtesheesh.

    Oh, and the person who left the comment. Amethyst, hun, it’s obvious they’re a sad little person who wishes to have half what you and N have.

    Shame that there are so many disappointing people in the world. However, I’d like to think there are more good people in the world than disappointing. Wishful thinking? Perhaps.

  9. 9Amethyst

    So, to define the word typical:

    1. of the nature of or serving as a type or representative specimen.
    4. characteristic or distinctive: He has the mannerisms typical of his class.

    I hope no one is saying that it is typical of Kuwaitis to be rude and inconsiderate. I don’t believe that there is a typical anything, like I said before.

    No conscience. What to do?

    It is disappointing, but I’m angry. I imagined, and that’s why I’m angry. To top it off, I had to go to that hospital today. Sigh.

    Yes, ma yeste7oun, and the dad came to call me off.

    I know; not recognizing their pitiful existence all that much.

    I believe that there are more good people in the world. It’s not wishful. Trust me, there are more good people in the world.

    I love you;*

  10. 10Anonymous

    The incident at the hospital is, sadly, one of innumerable such in the region and perhaps globally at large. No amount of denunciation, however intense, can truly convey how appalling this situation is. Very frankly, I’m repulsed. Your anger is more than justified; just reading about what ensued and picturing the contrary both aggrieves and horrifies me. May Allah protect your relative, and all others who do, and might find themselves subject to similar atrocities.

  11. 11HAJ

    wow, I’m nothing but shocked about those nurses. I’m so glad your relative was aware of what they were saying, if he wasn’t then god knows what he would of put in his system. If I were you I would personally go and ask what nurse it was, complain to her superior and give that bitch one hell of a talk. Better yet, slap her silly.
    It makes me furious knowing we have nurses like that in kuwait….. hell, people like this in the world.

  12. 12HAJ

    Oh and one more thing… that comment in your previous post… LOOOOOL… oh god, thats just sad, so so sad hahahah!

  13. 13Anonymous

  14. 14Amethyst

    I agree. Ameen.

    First off, Eve Ensler is a big one for me after reading The Vagina Monologues.

    I believe that we all have an “inner girl,” as she calls it, and some of us choose to suppress it. And yes, I do believe that this “inner girl” is brave. The point I want to make is made by her when she talks about her father beating her and telling her not to cry. If we cry and release our emotions and show these criminals how we feel, the victimizers might breakdown and realize the harshness of their actions. Her embrace of her “inner girl” has made her strong and gave her the ability to write and talk like she does.

    Embracing our “inner girls,” in my opinion, is the thing to do. I want to relate this talk to the people mentioned in this post. Had they recognized their “inner girls,” they probably would not have done or said what they did and said.

    Women are pushed towards becoming strong, brave, and more actively “masculine.” Sadly, these are not characteristics exclusive to men. They originate in women as well. Embracing this inner strength would probably allow the world to understand that women are not passive as they are commonly labeled. They’re not. They have the ability to balance strength and passivity in a way that is so harmonious. They save their own lives and others’ because of that harmony they create by allowing contradicting traits to co-exist.

    One more thing, I also love the poem at the very end. Thanks for linking me to that. :)

    The nurses were giving wrong medicine, but the doctors were the ones carrying out the conversation. Sigh. What to say?

    He did what he could to deal with the situation. I just feel very angry for those who are not aware of what medication the nurses are giving them and what conversations the doctors are having around them.

    I know. Lol.

  15. 15Vinnie

    I can c where you come from. And I understand that generlizing is not right n all but… We c it n deal w/ it all the time
    You just graduated and I know for a fact when u 1st applied to college u saw it, when u graduated and now looking for a job u saw it.. I think freelancing suites u more than a regular steady job btw. We c it on the street everyday
    Whe u flash ur signal to the right on a highway cause u want to get to that turn and that bastard who was going at a normal speed but suddenly started speeding just cause they cant bare the idea of letting someone go ahead of them, that shows the selfishness/rudeness a typical Kuwaiti has… How many people yield in q8? How many times u thought oh how nice of them (jizahom allah khair)?
    Apologies but this will drag on for a while…
    When u want to finish any kind of paper work… how many times have u had the helpful employee who values their job that they would get things done in order?
    Compare that to how many employees just tell u “take it somewhere else” or “come tomorrow” etc
    How many times u needed something to be done and someone just made sure they r w/ u everystep on the way just to make sure u had it done? As opposed to how much they would go out of their way to do harm to someone?
    Generalizing ain’t right but fields of study like sociology strive based on these generlizations
    Take another nation like say USA: Typical Americans are bad at geogrophy, they don’t care about what happens overseas. Canada and Mexico are considered overseas for them too.
    Japanese are hard workers, very creative too.
    Egyptians have low work ethics, Arabs generally do. They don’t believe in working your way up, they believe that taking shortcuts using (fahlawa) and (was6a) r the way to happiness thus making Arab nations less productive than others
    I understand ur tendency to try and abstain from generalizing but, can u really dismiss the alternative?

  16. 16prettyinpink

    i think there is an understanding of a ‘typical kuwaiti’ or a stereotyped one, oo ina they feel entitled to everything and thus skip lines and believe they are at no wrong.. this is definitely a trait i think that holds strong for typical kuwaitis, and if not in the older generations, then it definitely exists in this new generation..

    as for the DRs, what did u tell them!? i think esp. with doctors its like their job and get so detached, sometimes a zafa here and there brings them back down to reality.

  17. 17Vinnie

  18. 18Amethyst

    Unfortunately, you seem to forget all the good stuff Kuwaitis do. The things you mentioned can be found in every country. What you choose to remember about Kuwaitis at the end of the day is not what I choose to remember about them.

    “You just graduated and I know for a fact when u 1st applied to college u saw it, when u graduated and now looking for a job u saw it.. I think freelancing suites u more than a regular steady job btw.”

    I did not see anything of what you’re saying when I applied to university and while looking for a job, and working for my home business has led me to meet Kuwaitis who don’t think that I work for them. They understand completely that I work with them.

    Yesterday, I went to the following places: Mustashfa Al-Sabah, Elta2meenat Elejtema3eya, Elta3leem El3ali, and Deewan Elmu7asaba. I got all my papers done smoothly. I got all the information I needed from smiling people. I chatted with a very nice old man in the elevator. No one cut queues or thought they were above anyone else.

    So, yes, I believe that you are generalizing, and I believe that you should think of how you would feel if someone called you a typical Kuwaiti if you were having a bad day.

    I don’t believe in typical anything. Some Kuwaitis are selfish and snobbish, just like some Americans, Egyptians, Japanese and citizens of every country in the world are.

    You say that generalizing is wrong, but you’re also saying that you’re going to do it anyway. That’s not right. We do not become part of the problem when we recognize it just because everyone else is doing it. We do our best to change the things in ourselves that contribute to the problem. I’m sorry you feel that way about Kuwaitis since you’re one of them.

    There is an understanding of a “typical Kuwaiti,” but I do not believe it. Read the comment above.

    I didn’t tell them anything. My relative dealt with his situation the way he saw fit. I understand what you’re saying, and it’s sad that they need a zafa to realize that they need to take care of patients since that’s what they studied to do. Sigh. What can you say?

  19. 19Coconut

    I don’t understand where the lack of A5LAQ is coming from, you see it everywhere, TV, Parliment, everyone around. Eslob el kalam wel 7ewar 9ar very low, no one listens. We were never raised this way, our religion 3alamna el a5laq wel tasamo7. I’m so confused and upset, walah it upsets me to see ena we9alna hal mostawa, and it distresses me to say, it’s getting worse.

  20. 20Coconut

    I still beleive there is alot more good in the world, I believe you can make a difference by changing things within yourself to the better, it affects so many people around you in ways you cant imagine. Goodness is contagious.

    If someone is rude to you, you have two choices, you can be rude back, or you can be the better person and talk to them with respect. If you choose the latter, and the person infront of you is actually a human, then they will be ashamed of him/herself, and maybe you have evoked a change in that persons attitude.

    I think we should all stick to our morals and go with what Islam taught us, because if you do, at the end of the day, you will feel peace and happiness in your heart, knowing that you have done whats right.

  21. 21Amethyst

    I agree, but I still think each one of us can change this by being a constant good example. Cheers :)

  22. 22Vinnie

    I didn’t say generalizing is bad or good
    I understand the people who hate to generalize and I understand the ones that do
    After all, all they do in social studies is generalize, its their bread and butter. We can’t claim that sociology is not a science for example
    Look at sociological research. it generalizes people from taking human nature absolutely to categorizing people into classes
    But psychologists on the other hand believe in individuality although they have no choice but to group people based on symptoms
    One of the theories that cracked me up mentions how Arabs worship their leaders as long as they are alive. As opposed to dutch people who don’t take any kind of pride in reaching a high position. Their leaders are actually there to SERVE the people not to be vain
    So, I hope you keep an open mind about generalizing as opposed to simply sticking to assumptions

  23. 23Amethyst

    Actually, you did. You said it’s not right.

    “I understand that generlizing is not right”
    “Generalizing ain’t right”

    Saying that sociology is not a science can be an opinion. It’s fine.

    Sociologists categorize people into classes according to human nature. They do not say that all humans living in Kuwait are selfish snobs like you are.

    I do not want to keep an open mind about generalizing. My personal opinion is that it’s wrong. Therefore, I stay away from it, and I will refuse to conform just because people tend to do it anyway.

    I’m not sticking to assumptions. What assumptions am I sticking to?

  24. 24Anonymous

    At the end of the day, flaws manifest themselves in every society; no race, whether Arab, American, Hispanic or Asian is free of them. Selfishness is a trait common to all societies, so are the others we are aware of.
    In my opinion, there is a shade of gray people pro-generalisation and those anti-generalisation can find harmony in – we can all agree to understand and accept that in every society, owing to reasons that might exist and might not, reasons we might know and might not, some individuals have the tendency to display arrogance, and/or selfish behaviour and so on; in every society, some individuals might be harsh to others courtesy a hard day, or due to a dark patch on the canvas of life – they might not necessarily be inherently selfish, or arrogant, or impudent; and in every society, individuals exist who defy these occurences and make the world a better place with a simple smile or human gesture.

    Briefly, based on our personal opinions and perspectives, we can all agree to disagree whether one should geenralise or not. Simultaneously, we can cultivate the understanding that no society is free of human illnesses; in every society some might be suffering from those ailments, whilst others might not be – this, we can all choose to agree to agree on.

    On a final note, I would like to conclude with a rather powerful, thought-provoking quotation:
    “The only way for me to be human is for you to reflect my humanity back at me.” ~Chris Abani

  25. 25Amethyst

    Thank you. You made my point crystal clear.

    And I love the quote!

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